Sometimes we ask some questions just to keep the insipid talk running or when we have nothing to say. However, the right questions help to reveal the carefully hidden trait of a person’s character. And create an exciting conversation. We’ve gathered 15 questions for you to ask your partner on the first date.
By the way, if you are to go on the first date, make sure that you have a plan. Here are 10 Not Trivial Ideas for Your First Date! You are welcome!
What are you planning to do next week?
By asking this question, you can learn not only about the partner’s hobbies and how he prefers to spend his free time but also about what his daily life consists of and what he pays special attention to.
What have you always wanted to try but haven’t done yet?
The answer to the question can be a real sign. Someone wants to parachute or go to Africa. But someone has no desires and aspirations at all. And some immediately start sharing too intimate fantasies.
Which of your last actions could you boast of?
It gives an idea of what things a person values in his life and what is really important for him. Besides, if the answer to the question turns into a complimentary ode in his own honor, most likely, your partner is excessively focused on himself.
Does anyone know that you’re on a date right now?
Perhaps this is the whole army of his followers on social networks. Or, he informed the ex-girlfriend. And maybe only one of his closest people knows about it. Or no one at all, since a person seeks not to expose anything personal. The answer to this question helps to understand his views, even at the initial stage of the relationship.
Is there something that many are afraid to do, but you don’t?
Let’s learn about a person’s aspirations, ambitions, and the existence of any far-fetched or real limitations in life. Also, according to the reaction and the story of your interlocutor, you can also understand whether he boasts to everyone in a row or is trying to evaluate himself adequately.
What is your most vivid childhood memory?
Childhood memories can tell about how a person looked at the world around him from an early age and what impact it had on him. It’s also a great way to learn more about his past and discuss how you both grew up.
What is your favorite place to relax on a weekday, when you have no plans, and where are you ready to come again and again?
All the people relax in different ways: someone prefers to sit in a coffee shop, take a walk in the park, or watch a favorite movie. All this allows you to find something in common between you. And if daily visits to nightclubs or bars do not fit into your area of interest, think about it.
How did you meet your best friend?
Famous wisdom “a man is known by the company he keeps” is relevant now. On the first date, people try to learn more about each other, and not about outsiders. But the essence of this question is that the interlocutor gives his broader view on such an important topic, which also allows you to learn more about the various traits of his character.
What kind of work would you never be able to do?
Answers help you to get to know a person better, his both negative and positive sides. For example, a person may not like monotonous activities, because he continually likes to be on the move. ‘I couldn’t work in the animals trapping service since I’m a fanimal.’ Or maybe, ‘ under no circumstances would I engage in dusty and hard physical work, as he’s above all this.’
What is the best advice that you have ever given?
It may seem to the interlocutor that he shares his wisdom with you. In fact, the answer to the question gives an idea of what problems a person himself had to face in the past or what he continues to work on now.
What is the most ridiculous or awkward thing that you ever googled?
With this rather funny question, you can learn a lot about the interlocutor’s sense of humor. However, one should be prepared for the fact that it is possible to get a not entirely adequate or pleasant answer to it.
Do you have any scars with your story?
This question is quite personal. It should not be asked at the very beginning of the date. But it can tell a lot about your crush. Often this turns out to be a story from childhood, which then can become a topic for further discussion. But it may turn out that a person is very proud of the marks repeatedly received in drunken fights.
What makes you nervous?
Public speaking? Snakes? Clowns? Thus, you will learn some weak spots of your vis-a-vis or his sense of humor. And if you tell about yourself, you can make the conversation more private and win over the person you are talking to.
What do you think is the worst quality a person can have?
Here you can find out if there are some people’s shortcomings your companion is intolerant of and how adequate his reaction is. It is ok when a person does not tolerate a lie, but if he is ready to run away from a date if he finds out that the girl had a relationship in the past, it speaks volumes about him.
Do you believe in friendship between a man and a woman?
The answer to it can define not only the development options for your relationship if something goes wrong or even if it doesn’t reach them. The answer to this question will also show the person’s view on how he communicates with the opposite sex, including with his ex.
Feel free to ask these questions but be ready to answer them, too, as it’s most likely that you will be asked the same in response.